Dealing With Disappointment :: Chalk Board Encouragement

CIMG0121About a month ago I was hit with an overwhelming amount of disappointment and hurt.  I have a better handle on it now but I am afraid the issue is one of those life long lingering ones.   CIMG0123As I adjust to life as an adult, I am learning that I am very idealistic and unfortunately people are very disappointing.  It has been bringing me down but also bringing down my husband.  I am seeing how much as the home manager, my attitude, emotional state, and mindset affect my household.  In attempts to move past this, I have been trying to surround myself with good thoughts…truths…to dwell on instead.  And though chalkboards are for decorating, they can also help with some heart transformation.   CIMG0124 And I as I deal with this, I have been learning that I need to embrace and invest in those people who do love me…who bring joy to my life…who care about me unconditionally.  And suddenly I don’t have time to dwell as much on those bringing me down.  A lesson that hurts but a lesson that needs to be learned.

What does your chalkboard need to be telling you right now?


  1. We were youth/worship pastors for 7 years and I had to learn this lesson too. You will never make everybody happy, not everybody will always like you, and you will not always be right. I did not enjoy learning those things. I like your idea for encouraging yourself and your husband with your chalkboard. Surrounding yourself with God's truth is the best thing you can do!

  2. I don't believe I've posted here before (I'm a new follower via bloglines) - but I just wanted to encourage you that this is such a wonderful, enriching idea to surround yourself with reminders and positive notes. I've been married quite a number of years, and I *know* I've often thought if I could take the old "post-it on the bathroom mirror" idea into my life that I could weather life's hardships a little easier. It never dawned on me to use something so attractive. I spend a lot of time in our new kitchen and have been contemplating both a message center and a "wall gallery" in that room - I think I'm going to include a blackboard and some positive printed words for framing as well.

  3. Girrrrrrrrrrrrrllllllll (said in my Shaniqua voice) I'm so right there with you. Last month I posted a few times about how much some people SUCK (sorry, there is no other way to describe it...actually there is, but it's not very lady like).
    I'm a giver and I love to help people. My Son tells me I'm way too nice and I always reply there is not such thing. However, life makes you realize that not everyone is like that. That you are often dissapointed and it freaking hurts.
    My chalkboard would say (I don't have one, but I'm looking for a frame to make one):
    "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss
    Surround yourself with people that bring hapiness and peace to your life!
    (darn this was loooong)

  4. Surrounding yourself with positive things is such a good idea and these chalkboards are a perfect way to do just that.

    People can be really disappointing at times, that's their human-ness I suppose.

    My chalkboard would say: To forgive someone is a gift you give yourself.

  5. Hey Ashley, I hope you are feeling better. I know that is a tough lesson to learn indeed. I too am very tenderhearted and I used to get my feelings hurt/disappointed A LOT! I finally realized that just because I would do something a certain way, doesn't mean everyone else will do it that way too. I have also tried to surround myself with "effortless" friendships and not spend time on the toxic ones. Here's a big hug for you!

  6. My heart and love go out to you. I went through this not too long ago. But your right, surround yourself with positive sayings, read your Bible and rely on God to take away the pain and instead wrap you in HIS love!! I'm in a very happy place right now and love my life so much! It's taken a long time to get here.. but here I am,, and here I'll stay!! Prayers to you my friend and know your thought of in many positive ways!

  7. You are so right about not focusing on the people that bring you down, but rather those who fill your life with blessing. I too have had to deal with that a lot as I moved towards adulthood, people just let you down and hurt you sometimes, but those who matter never will!

  8. It was rather interesting for me to read this blog. Thanks for it. I like such themes and everything that is connected to them. I would like to read a bit more on that blog soon.

    Julia Benedict

  9. Sorry you're going through a hard time. It's frustrating when people bring you down; often it's for their own selfish reasons. Just know there are a lot of us out here that think you're super-duper-awesome!

    I really like the chalkboard idea. Sometimes I put little notes to myself on post-its, but this is much prettier :) I'm going through some emotional stuff right now, too, so my chalkboard would say:

    This too shall pass.

    Have a wonderful day,

  10. hugs ashley! i know life can be so tough at times and quite honestly people SUCK. all i can say is karma is real....and what goes around eventually comes around. i have had my share of this over the past year and people who i thought were my closest friends, basically really hurt me. it's not fun.
    i like that you have positive thoughts and writings on your chalkies! i think mine would say, something like, continue to be good to others and it will eventually come back to you.....sometimes a hard rule to follow. i need encouragement in my life right now!!! i am having a really hard time! xo

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