Dressing My Husband


When it comes to my husband and his clothing and style, I am the one who decides on what he wears.  While his wardrobe has not drastically changed much since we first met (shorts and flip flops for life!), I have slowly helped curate a stylish closet while still remaining true to my husband's personality.


We have been married for five years and together for ten, and I honestly can say that it has only been in the last few years that I have had this much say in what he wears.  It is a process.  I never want my husband to feel like I do not respect his taste or to make him appear to be something he is not.  But with some gentle promptings and kind encouragement, he has grown to let me pick out what he wears. 

My husband is a masculine guy with a strong build and so I don't try to put him in skinny jeans or tight v-necks.  Instead I look to what is in style, consider classic pieces, as well as his body frame when picking out clothes and accessories for him.


It is a little silly but my main source of men's style inspiration comes from television and movies.  We watch a lot of action movies and cop shows where the men wear a lot of black and masculine cut clothing.  As I watch I take note of certain cuts and styles that are on trend without trying to dress him like a men's magazine cover model. 

One of my biggest style investments was his jacket (seen below).  The military shoulder detail as well as the straight collar make this jacket masculine and dressy.  He has worn it in a lot of our travel and holiday photos that add an element of layering that pulls together his look.


In the last few years, he has been wearing a lot of plaid.  The type of plaid I look for are large patterns to match his muscular build.  I also look for them in certain colors I like and that he wears well like navy, black, and red.  These are also the colors I tend to wear so there is no surprise here!  It actually makes all our photos together pretty flattering that we are almost always wearing the same color scheme.


While I do not wear a lot of patterns, his plaid adds that element to our combined look.


Besides shirts, he has a few sweaters that fit these same qualifications - straight collar and neutral colors.  As for jeans, he has a few pairs in the same style that are straight leg and a dark wash.  Really they are the straightest fitting jeans that he still feels comfortable in.  Far from anything like a skinny jean.  But again, it matches his style and comfort needs while remaining stylish but not necessarily super trendy.


As for dressing up and work clothes, he has a variety of dress style pants that are either navy, black, or grey.  He has a selection of neutral collared shirts and some patterned ties in the same color scheme.  Many of the ties I have bought for him since we were married I picked up at thrift stores.  He has one nice suit style jacket (seen below) that he can dress up with a tie or dress down with a shirt and jeans.


Just in the past few months I have been on the look out for casual collared shirts in plain colors to mix in with his plaid.  I have found a few long sleeve and short sleeve that have updated his wardrobe while still staying true to his general style. 


When it comes to actually purchasing items, besides pants, I often just buy items when I see them and bring them home for him to try on.  I have had pretty good luck with finding things that fit and work well based off of my general idea of what style I like him to wear.  Plus for easy reference, I have a piece of paper I carry in my wallet with all his different sizes for when I am out shopping without him.


As for accessories he wears sunglasses and watches.  These are little harder to pick out on my own as they are more expensive investment items so I like to get his opinions on these ones.  Our most recent addition is this wood watch from Jord - the 94A Series in Chocolate.  I love the uniqueness in the wood and design while still looking classic and stylish.  We both looked at the selection from Jord but he let me decide on the final choice.  We both really love the modern and masculine style.


Jord is Sweedish for earth, soil, and land.  The wood watch company believes in natural elements combined with modern design.  Wood is the main feature of each watch that is sustainable, efficient, simple, and influenced by experimental living.  Their unique story and design sets them apart making their watches not just stylish but a piece of art.

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Using these guidelines as the foundation to dressing my husband has been able to keep us both happy when it comes to what he wears.  I get to pick out new items to keep him stylish while still considering his personal needs and interests when it comes to getting dressed each day.  It has been a win win for us but one that has also taken time and investment in each other and our marriage. 

I received this Jord watch in exchange for this post.  All opinions are mine.  Thank you for supporting the brands that make Domestic Fashionista possible.

Following the Theme for My Life


I recently had an opportunity present itself that sent me off into dreamland.  I started planning and deciding about this new life that I would live.  For a second I was willing to sacrifice so much because this new opportunity came with excitement, hope, and perhaps a new purpose.  And while these things are good signs of where passion comes from, after weighing the reality of a completely new commitment, I eventually came to my senses and had to say no. 

So much of what I have been feeling lately - loneliness, boredom, feeling stagnant, loss of motivation - seemed like they could be fixed by pouring myself into something else.  When in fact I needed to get to the root of why I was feeling this way.

My husband has been so busy.  Work has been crazy and grad school has been demanding.  While the first few months were filled with productivity and getting extra things done I have started to walk down the road of boredom and loneliness.  I have spent time shopping.  That was fun for awhile but proved to be unfulfilling.  And eventually I resorted to food and moping around the house. 


And that is when I realized I was willing to throw myself into something else for the sake of survival and perhaps a little accountability.  I was longing for something and I just didn't know what. 

After some thought, I knew deep in my heart, I was already where I was supposed to be.  At home, with my nephews, to blog, and to encourage woman.  To be available to a husband who needs my extra support and availability during this busy season of life.  And to live and tell about a simple life. 

But I had lost an appreciation for the life that was in front of me.  Desiring more time with my husband had me searching for ways to fill my time.  When in fact this is just a season.  I can fill my time but I did not need to replace it.

So quickly I was willing to give away a life I had longed for for so long and have worked hard to build to temporarily pick myself up.  And sometimes when we get to a low place, sometimes we have to let those things lift us.  But really I was just drowning my sorrows in junk food and Instagram.  And I knew better.

So I chose to come back.  To not take a huge plate of work and add it to my life.  But to come back to my purpose and to how I want to spend my time.  To remind myself what I am supposed to be doing with this life I have been given.

And it brought me back to my life theme I put together through the Storyline book (unfortunately no longer available).  This theme is a decision filter.  Donald Miller writes, "I reject any opportunity that does not reflect the theme of my life."  And I knew I needed to bring back that laser focus into my life.

My theme is: Encouraging women to see their unique value and purpose.  


I wrote it on a post it note and stuck it on my computer.  So that when I am bored, sad, lonely, or maybe daydreaming about being swept away into something new for the sake of a change of scenery, that I would come back to where I am rooted.  That I would be reminded that I have a unique value and purpose.  And I need to live it.  So I come here and share.  Because you may need to be reminded of this as much as I do. 

Sometimes we have to leap.  Being brave and making the jump is hard and noble.  But sometimes we have to stand firm.  Because staying and fighting through can be just as brave and admirable.

HGTV Lake Tahoe Dream Home: Blurb Photo Book


Remember back when I was invited to visit the HGTV Dream Home in Lake Tahoe?  Yes, it was years ago.  And yes, I finally got around to making a photo book of it.  It is never too late to get those photos printed on actual paper.  So here it is!


Being invited on this trip was a dream.  It is definitely one of my biggest blogging milestones while also ended up being one of the most beautiful weekends away with my husband.  It most definitely needed it's own photo book.  As always, I used my tried and true photo book company Blurb.


Since my little collection of photo books keeps growing, here is an updated photo of them all.  They are one of my most prized possessions.  All those beautiful memories in lovely bound books.  Even if I am years behind I try to at least stay on top of our vacation books. 



// Read more about the trip here:

Visiting the HGTV Dream Home

Staying at the Ritz Carlton and what we did

Delta Faucet review and details


// For more photo book inspiration, you can check out all my projects here.

// You know you want to.  Make your first photo book with Blurb.

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Backyard Patio Dinner Party


Since moving our patio furniture down into the garden, we hosted our first little dinner party of the season in the backyard.  Since there was just four of us, we enjoyed the intimate seating on our patio furniture. 


I dragged out the bar cart to use to serve drinks.  The small detail makes this space feel intentional and luxurious.


By bringing a little of the indoors outside, we had a beautiful and simple dinner ambiance.


I am pretty predictable when it comes to my color schemes.  Whether indoors or out I have pink flowers and blue pillows.  I know what I like and what works and so I continually add more pink flowers to my yard and search for navy outdoor pillows in different designs.  It actually makes life a lot easier knowing exactly what to shop for and what to plant in my garden. 


To serve dinner, I pulled out a round folding table to place the food on.


Like I have said before, being out and watering my plants weekly has transformed my love for our yard.  By spending time outside on an almost daily basis, I am becoming more creative and inspired in how we set up our space.  I already have plans for other little cement slabs to create multiple small seating spaces amongst the flowers. 


I want entertaining to be simpler but still beautiful.  Besides prepping dinner, I set up the bar cart and the folding table.  It really was not much extra work but in being intentional in how we use our outdoor furniture, I now have a cozy spot that is readily available for entertaining.


And while I have gotten rid of all my other potted decorative plants, this one little fern has served me well.  It has lasted years simply being outside.  It adds just an extra bit of detail without fully furnishing the space with extra unnecessary items.


We served a lemon and chicken pasta with garlic bread and salad.


Grateful for the season of outdoor entertaining!  A beautiful time spent with friends and family in the beauty of nature!

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