Finding What Works As A New Mom



One of my biggest challenges as a mom so far has been to trust my gut with what I know is right.  It is so easy for me to overthink things, question what I am doing, and overdo the internet research trying to figure out what is best for my child in that moment, when in fact I already have a pretty good idea of what I should do.  Usually I am just looking for some sort of validation.

I hope that this is a worry that dies down at some point, as taking care of a newborn is new and daunting.  But I am afraid it will only go away if I choose to let it.  There is a proper amount of research and learning that is to be done with taking on anything new.  But once I figure out what works, I need to stick with it and stop questioning myself so much.

It was my mother's intuition that got us to the hospital earlier than planned only to find out that our baby needed to be induced.

It is in talking with friends that I realize that what we are doing for our son to get some sleep is both normal and good for him.

It is in his smile and giggles that remind me that he is a happy and healthy baby - even though he keeps mommy up all night!

Over and over my choices are validated that I am plenty capable of making the right decisions for our family.  That overthinking and trying new things just for the sake of trying them isn't gaining me any progress.  I need to stick with what I know and simply enjoy this time.  Worrying only steals the joy of these early days with my son.


Besides caring for our baby boy, I often question my own decisions when it comes to other areas in life, particularly my health.  Am I getting enough nutrients?  Is this the most effective workout plan?  How can I prevent getting sick when everyone is coming down with a cold?

One health area that I have to deal with is being a year-round cold sore sufferer.  I get them typically in the winter but as well as when I am overtired, stressed, or catching something.  Currently I am getting them with my lack of sleep because of a newborn!

There are a lot of medicine wives tales out there on fighting cold sores, but I am a big believer in the wonders of true medicine.  I have a lot on my plate as well as some sleep to catch up on so I don't have the time to try things that don't work (Like putting an iced battery on my lip! Yuck!).  Instead I want relief that actually works which I find in Abreva®.  It fights with medicine and not myth!

I think it is so important to find what works and stick with it.  As a brand new mom it is even more vital that I use my time and resources more efficiently. Abreva® has saved me the headache of trying things that don't work.  I have much more important things to consume my day, including a crying baby calling for my attention (the baby is literally waking up from a nap as I write this!).

My new mom motto is to find what works and stick with it.  It is keeping me sane, helping me relax, and keeping cold sores at bay!

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A Season To Just Be


Hello friends!  Long time no blog post!  I am here...we are in Virginia.  We are finally in our new home.  And we are going into week three and are still tackling the overwhelming task of unpacking.  

I have so much to share yet no time or energy to do so.  With Christmas just around the corner I am afraid that this lack of time and blog posts will only continue.  So bear with me as I take things slowly for the next few months.  

This post popped up in my Facebook feed from two years ago.  While it is another busy holiday season, this year is especially different with a new baby and having just moved across the country.


Last week I had my first melt down since we moved.  I felt overwhelmed.  I took a little break from trying to be super productive and allowed myself to rest.  Since then I have come up for air, am slowly making progress, and am seeing our new home start to come together. 

But seeing this post come up in my feed was just the gentle reminder I was looking for.  While I see photo after photo of friend's holiday decorations being put up it has been hard to not feel frantic trying to catch up with everyone else.  Especially from afar I often feel isolated from what is going on in the world. 

We live in the sticks and with a baby and unpacking I am spending the majority of my time at home.  We need the quiet.  We need consistent nap times.  And we need to continue to make slow progress here.  And yet I still feel the pull to move faster, to get more done, and to fully enjoy this holiday season by rushing to get things finished.

But there will be time.  There will be time to decorate.  Time to celebrate.  Time to make memories with our first born on his first Christmas.  But today, this past week, and I am sure for many more days to follow - I need to allow myself to just be.  I need to let this crazy, stressful, big move mold me.  I need to let it do what it needs to do to our little family and how it will shape us for years to come.  There will be more Christmases.  But I will never get back these chaotic yet quiet days at home with my baby and my husband.

Let's say no to the frantic this holiday season.  Let's simply enjoy it at our own pace - not the pace of others.  Let's let this season mold us, change us, and bring new life for years to come by making time to just be.

Updated Front Yard Garden Bed


A few months ago, while my husband was off on family leave, we tackled a few projects around the house.  Yes, in between not sleeping much at night, we worked on projects!  One of the biggest ones was updating our front yard garden bed.


Ever since we had to move our fence back off the street, the sprinklers were no longer in the proper place to water the grass efficiently and the area in front of the fence had trouble thriving because it got walked on by people from the elementary school across the street.  So we wanted to cover the area with bark and put in a few plants in hopes of giving the house a little more curb appeal as well as try to keep people off of our yard.  Who were we kidding, people still walked through our yard but at least we no longer had to look at patches of dead grass!  Plus since we knew that we would be renting out our house soon, we needed to have the sprinklers properly set up.


We were really happy with how it turned out.  The front yard has not gotten the same love it has had in the past with this whole having a baby thing and California's continued drought.  So the new garden bed looks really manicured and sort of hides my neglected garden in the main yard area.


I am not sure if this is common in other areas, but a lot of homes in our neighborhoods are opting for more drought friendly gardens.  We felt like this was a nice compromise without going completely bare.


We planted boxwood plants all the way down the front and side of our house.  We added in a few more oleanders to match the existing ones on the side.


It took a good couple of weeks to do the whole project, mostly because Brent had to rerun sprinklers.  But once we got to planting and laying down bark it went really quickly.  We felt like the clean and uniform look added a bit of a wow factor for not a ton of money.  Looking back at all the years of picking out plants and moving things around, if I were to do it all over again, I would go with a more simple look like this.  A good lesson as life seasons and my how my taste for curb appeal has changed. 

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