My Own Road To "Save The Date"

 


Lately I have been thinking about my own "love story."  Five years ago I shared my engagement with the Internet world and have been sharing my story ever since; however, I did not share as much about my story before that.  Because our story was unsure back then, I wasn't confident in how it would end.


In 2005 I started dating Brent.  He was my first boyfriend at the age of 20 and as a grown up tomboy starting to date in her twenties, I was beginning to wonder if a guy would ever notice me.  My heart grew for him quickly, which was a surprise.  Without ever having an interest in him before, I started to fall for him.

Maybe it was due to finally getting some attention from a man, but perhaps it was his chivalry that got to me, as well.  Opening my door, buying me dinner, and meeting my parents...all those things every parent wishes for their daughter started to become a reality.


He was older by five years and it was so nice finally to date.  He had just started his career, which is the job he still holds now. He bought me groceries, which is a poor college girl's love language for flowers.

But don't you worry.  There were still flowers.  Flowers at my apartment.  Flowers waiting for me after a late night class.  Flowers when I was student teaching.  And almost every Sunday, flowers at my desk at my church.  I would tuck those flowers in my purse every Sunday morning and would get comments like, "It must be Sunday! Ashley has flowers!"


Dinners out, a picnic at the lake, and dancing in the parking lot -- I started to fall in love.  But with all the romance, butterflies in my stomach, and perfect dates, years started to pass.  I graduated college.  I quit my job.  I moved back in with my parents.  All the while waiting for when he would pop the question.

After years of being so sure what I wanted to do with my life, my world was flipped upside down when I fell in love.  I met a man that wanted to take care of me.  Who could provide for me.  And who helped me look at life a little differently.  The only problem was he wasn't ready to marry me. 

I felt deep in my heart a call to create a home with this man.  A call to be a wife and a homemaker and hopefully, one day, a mom.   It was an invitation to consider a life I had previously not thought about.  It was a life of slowing down and the more I considered it, the more my heart yearned for it.

Friends and family supported this new passion.  I started blogging.  I used my free time to pursue creative endeavors.  But as each day passed, concerned loved ones kept asking, "when is he going to marry you?"

I did not know.  It was beyond my control.  And it filled many nights full of tears of the unknown.  I loved him.  I trusted that all these years weren't for nothing.  That there was a part of him that I knew loved me but just was not ready.


And then something changed.  I cannot explain it, nor can even pinpoint what that change was.  But all that waiting was no longer for nothing.  He was ready. 

Holding hands, we hopped on a plane together to my fairytale engagement.  A proposal at the beach.  A profession of his love for the very first time.  A song written just for me.  And a longing that was finally fulfilled.


And in what was just a short moment that seemed to last a lifetime, my world changed.  What I once knew as love multiplied by the millions.  The way he looked at me.  The way he held my hand.  The way he said, "I love you" made all those uncertain nights I once had, fade away. 

I later learned that my husband is a committed man.  Though he loved me for many years before we married, he needed to be 100% sure of his commitment before he took the plunge.  Though those years were not always easy, it has taught me a great life lesson: be patient.  Know that some things in life are worth the wait.

 


A wedding in our case was one thing that was not worth the wait.  As soon as I got that ring on my finger, I could not wait to marry that man.  We got married three months later and have been living our happily ever after since.

 


Every story has its twist and turns.  And I want to celebrate the hard times as much as the good times.  I know, without a doubt, the devotion my husband has for me.  To imagine anything different now just seems odd.  But there was a time of uncertainty.  And because of it we can be stronger today.

I am a sucker for a good love story.  And I am thankful for the opportunity to write down my own.  We all have stories of ups and downs that usually don't end up the way we had planned.  But it is in living the story, and being able to look back, that we realize how good our stories really are.


Mary Kay Andrews, New York Times bestselling author, has come out with her newest book SAVE THE DATE!  As I flip through every page on the edge of my seat, I am reminded of my own love story.  My own road to our "save the date."  As a romantic, daughter of a florist, and party enthusiast, reading this story of a Savannah florist's search for her own fairytale ending is right up my alley!  Mary Kay Andrews is funny, smart, and heartfelt.  This book is so good you will want to RSVP!

Read an excerpt, download recipes inspired from the book, and more here.


In celebration of this book I am also giving away to one lucky reader a copy of SAVE THE DATE as well as a $100 Visa Gift Card!  Leave a comment below sharing your own story of love (or perhaps love lost) for a chance to win! 

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41 comments:

  1. I met my husband while still in High School! He took me to my Senior prom! We feel in love, moved in with each other, fought like crazy and got our own apartments, couldn't stay away from each other and ended up with a baby and married at 20 (me) and 21 (him). But when your heart knows what it wants it keeps with it. So now here we are three kids, lots of military moves and nine years later, still loving each other!

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  2. I can identify with the idea that some things are worth waiting for...I didn't meet my (now) husband until I was 30, and he was my first official boyfriend as well! He was worth the wait, and I'm so thankful for him. 2 years ago he asked me to marry him, and 4 months later, we married. Thanks for sharing your story and the opportunity to remember mine!

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  3. What a beautiful story! My husband and I met in high school, but did not start dating until we were in our 20's. We were the best of friends that ended up madly in love. We have been married for almost 6 years now and it gets better everyday.

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  4. i enjoyed reading about the early days in your relationship, and i actually find myself in a somewhat similar situation. the boyfriend and i have been together for almost 17 years, since we were 18, and we are always asked about marriage. sometimes i want to, sometimes i feel like what would that change. regardless, we are committed to each other and our lives together. thanks for sharing your story,

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  5. I loved reading your story my friend, and I cannot wait to download the book (hate not being a US resident for these chances to win!) All good things come to those who wait :) x

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  6. Did you ever think of asking him when he'd be ready? At our 2nd or 3rd date I told my now husband I wasn't going to date if marriage wasn't the end goal. He was on board, and we talked about marriage very soon after that. I don't know if it's the American culture, but I don't understand how girls date someone for 3+ years and have no idea when he'll propose... I feel sorry for them that they don't have the freedom to ask their boyfriends that. Not saying that was you but just reflecting upon it. You and Brent look made for each other, can't wait to see how you'll be as parents.

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  7. I don't have a personal story of love, but my brother met his wife in high school and he wrote her a song including lyrics and guitar music while they were dating and then played that same song at their wedding.

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  8. I tweeted under @yarbr012: https://twitter.com/yarbr012/status/473935898715779074..

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  9. What a wonderful story I am so happy that you two found each other. I haven't yet met my mr. right but I haven't lost hope I know he is on his way and he is going to be super special.

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  10. My one love: my husband. Met him at work, many years ago. I wanted nothing to do with him, but he pursued. I guess he grew on me, we have been together these 25 years since :)

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  11. tweet https://twitter.com/LuLu_Brown24/status/474206347655782400

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  12. I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 21 at a Bus Stop. I was taken back when he asked to sit next to me on the Bus. But, we went to the park and talked and over a period of a year we fell in love!! He is the love of my life and my soul mate and we have been married for 33 short years!

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  13. https://twitter.com/JewelWood/status/474214923669475329

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  14. My husband and I met on resort vacation 11 years ago and have been together ever since
    elena150980 at yahoo dot com

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  15. https://twitter.com/ElenaIstomina/status/474220962770993152

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  16. tweet: https://twitter.com/akronugurl/status/474236370387755008

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  17. Don't have one.. I did lost my mother a few years back to breast cancer, that struck me hard.. she was too young to go.

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  18. I met my husband in my final year of college and we had so much in common, it was almost meant to be!
    kellywcu8888ATgmailDOTcom

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  19. tweet

    https://twitter.com/Kellydinpa/status/474247027677622272



    kellywcu8888ATgmailDOTcom

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  20. I think my love story is more to do with having two beautiful babies in our family. That made my life complete.

    chambanachik(at)gmail(dot)com

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  21. Me and my hubby became best friends before we fell for each other, he makes me feel like a kid all over again every day. The laughter with him never ends. Everyday is most exciting then the day before.

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  22. Tweeted- https://twitter.com/lil_lady_dz/status/474298795849572352

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  23. I would like to share my brother's story of love because it is heartwarming. He met his now wife in high school and created a guitar song just for her. He wrote the lyrics and made the music and everything. Well, 2 years ago they got married and he sang the same song to her during the wedding. It was a very touching moment.

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  24. I tweeted under twitter id @yarbr012 https://twitter.com/yarbr012/status/474318780252692480.

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  25. We eloped because our families thought we were too young to get married (we were 22 & 23...not that young IMO!). No regrets whatsoever.



    mami2jcn at gmail dot com

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  26. tweeted--https://twitter.com/mami2jcn/status/474262758041452544

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  27. What a sweet story! Makes me remember my own "love story". Thanks for sharing!

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  28. i love this question! Well i met my husband through a friend, we fell in love and married a month later and i was pregnant within a couple weeks. That's MY love story !:)



    vanitizebaby@yahoo.com

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  29. tweet

    https://twitter.com/MeandBells/status/474620402254110720

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  30. I met my hubby at work. I knew something great was going to happen the minute I laid eyes on him. We started hanging out as friends first which I think was great. So we really got to know each other first then it turned into love :) amypugmire@live.com

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  31. https://twitter.com/1amypugmire/status/474703688083062784



    amypugmire@live.com

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  32. tweeted
    https://twitter.com/rubylorikeet/status/474725786415398914

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  33. We had a small wedding with family and friends instead of a huge celebration our parents hoped for. I am glad to say we made a wise decision.

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  34. -https://twitter.com/tcarolinep/status/474740226980872193

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  35. My story of love lost is that our interests just didn't coincide. :(

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  36. https://twitter.com/SkyShyskyk/status/475028090356109312

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  37. I met my husband at work. We have been married for 26 years. He is the love of my life and my best friend.
    s2s2 at Comcast dot net

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  38. https://twitter.com/susan1215/status/475373907034120192
    s2s2 at Comcast dot net

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  39. I met my husband at college through a mutual friend. We hit it off and have been together ever since.


    dlatany at gmail dot com

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  40. https://twitter.com/sweetums82/status/475390128811016192



    dlatany at gmail dot com

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