Let Him Help When He Wants To

"Let my husband work all day - I can handle it all.  Let him help out when he wants to.  Let him freeze his butt off on the train while I sleep until 9:00.  Let him leave his towel on the floor?  Who cares?  In the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter.  What matters is that I'm married to a good man who has given me beautiful children and a beautiful home...For goodness' sake, take the garbage out yourself!  You catch more bees with honey than with vinegar."

-Darla Shine, "Happy Housewives"

While I love it when my husband picks up after himself, it's not what I love about him.  I love his tender heart, his strength, his laughter, and his integrity.  And so I have learned to bite my tongue when he does not do everything exactly the way I would.  Because I married the man that he is, not a house cleaner.  Sometimes we live in the mess (or I do all the cleaning) because we would rather be spending time with each other, happily, instead.