Being Known

_JLD1141 In today’s society we are often known for what we do…our work.  As a people pleaser and perfectionist I always liked being known for my creativity and for my ability to work with children.  I craved the attention, flattery, and respect of being good at something.  I sought out other people’s affirmation to feel known.

Up until I got married, I used these skills and talents to make a living for myself.  I did things like open up an Etsy shop and work with children.  I had a heart for the home years ago and was doing these things to get by until I could one day stay at home as a wife.

Now that I am married and this dream of being at home has been finally given to me, I have still felt unsure.  Unsure that I was not being known.  I have these gifts that need to be used elsewhere.  Somewhere where people will see me, know me, and affirm me. 

Thoughts and pressures would fill my mind of things I could do…things I am good at.  But every time I would stop to really consider it, I would become overwhelmed.  I felt like I was not being true to my calling at home.  I felt conflicted yet I felt unknown.

I cried, I prayed, I stressed.  I needed to find where I could be known.

It was then that I realized that I did not need to be known by the world.  But instead to embrace that I am known by my Heavenly Father and that I am known by my husband.  And suddenly I realized I did not need to be known for anything else. 



19 comments:

  1. What a great post. It is such a difficult choice to stay home and today there can be a stigma to it and so many questions from society. What you are doing is a really great thing. You are a great person and if YOU know that and your husband knows that then all is good!
    (God knew it a long time ago)

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  2. Very poignant and thoughtful. Indeed.....to honor our husbands and our God are the most noble acts of all!

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  3. Beautifully written and so true! Thanks for sharing. We all need to read a post like this to put things perspective.

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  4. Great post. Thank you. I have been a single-girl-hard-worker for all my life, getting married in March. And God has been speaking to me about being a 'wife.' It almost seems like down-sizing compared to what I've done in the past and what I am doing now. But you are right...if you are where God wants you to be and doing what He wants you to do, that is all that counts!

    (And I'd say LOTS of people out here in blog world know you! ) :)

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  5. How perfectly written. to honor our husbands and our God are the most noble acts of all! I always have felt that those of us that make the decision to be "homemakers" are judged...I have never regretted the decision not to buy a bigger house, a newer car,take expensive trips.I know my husband, children and fur babies were well taken care of and love me for what I do each day.

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  6. Beautifully written and I totally agree with everything you've said. Here's to you! (Hey, *I* know you!)

    :)

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  7. What a wonderfully written post! Thank you for sharing.

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  8. Good for you! What a great post!

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  9. That's what we call "Wisdom" and it comes with growing a little older. Doesn't it feel great to be "comfortable in your own skin"?!

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  10. So very true, especially in these times where if you are not making 6 figures you are doing something wrong. Hubs and I already decided that if and when we have a new baby, I'm staying home and a proud Domestic Engineer!

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  11. GREAT GREAT POST! I FEEL THE SAME WAY. . .GOODNESS, YOU COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER!

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  12. Love this post. So much wisdom. :)

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  13. So well said. I could not agree more. :)

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  14. Wow...I felt this way a few years ago and my sister-in-law assured me that what I was doing was great. As in, a stay at home, homeschooling mom was great, I didn't need to be considered "GREAT" by others.
    Great insight on the Husband and God part.
    Elise

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  15. Ashley, you are wise beyond your years. I only wish I would have had that wisdom when I was younger.

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  16. Bravo! thank you for validating that we do not have to 'prove' anything to anyone by being a stay-at-home wife/mother. I think the jealous people out there like to belittle what we do - hold your head high and when others snidely ask if you 'work' when they know full well you do not hold a job outside the home, say "I am truly blessed to be able to be at home and live the life I've always wanted."

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  17. When you create your world around you and don't step out of it, it's easy to be happy inside it.

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