I love it...but it doesn't work for me.

Sometimes I think I need to tattoo this reminder on my forehead.  This phrase can pertain to so many things in life that I often have to tell myself, “I love it…but it doesn’t work for me.”

Two areas I have been thinking this is with fashion and with home d├ęcor.

I have really been down about my body image lately and had some time to think about what it was all stemming from.  Over the past few months I have gained some weight…enough weight where I need to make some changes but not enough weight where my one pair of pants still zips up. 

To anyone else, no one notices.  But to me, it gets to me. 

I have become a real sucker for trends lately.  I follow a few fashion blogs and the whole 80’s boxy off the shoulder tops are still really in.  And man those tops are comfortable.

But they don’t look good on me. 

So I try to find a style of said trend to work for my body type when really I need to stick with what I know works for me.  It is okay to take risks but I am finding that I was trying to make something work that really wasn't working.

Between wearing things that do not compliment my body type and knowing I gained a couple pounds, it got me really down...you know that ugly dark place where we are alone with our negative I will never be content with my body place.

When in actuality if I was embracing what worked for my body, perhaps I would be less upset and more motivated to have a little more self discipline and be content in where I am at.

I love it…but it doesn’t work for me.

If this is you, I cannot say it enough…you need to read The Science of Sexy…it will change your life and how you dress.  This post was much inspired by recently rereading it.

I also feel this way as it pertains to my home decor...

As if blogging was not enough, this phenomenon called Pinterest makes me feel like my home looks like a piece of junk…when in reality it is actually very nice!

It is so easy to see photos of beautiful homes and crazy cool trends but when I try to implement it in my own home it doesn’t feel right.

I need a little character…a little whimsy…a little personality…a little me. 

And trying to look like everyone else’s house is not going to get me any closer to that goal.

I am trying to let these photos and homes be inspiration but not a guide book as to how my home should look. 

Again...I like it…but it doesn’t work for me.

There is something about embracing who you are…and living in your own skin that is so refreshing.  I love seeing an outfit or a home that reflects a person’s personality and tells their story.

Let’s be true to ourselves.  Because I might like something…but it doesn’t always work for me. 

Being myself works for me.

We each have our own journey and stories that have got us to where we are at today. Let's stop comparing ourselves to everyone and embrace our own uniqueness and gifts we have to offer the world. 


  1. What a great post. I could have not said it better myself.

  2. Such a great post Ashley!
    I can totally relate to the house decorations.

    You are beautiful inside and out and your home is gorgeous!


  3. You have no idea how special you are. I've been so excited to read your post everyday to see what's happening in your world. It gives me inspiration to add new things to mine. I'm a bit older, and shaped totally different than you, but you've inspired me to try new things and to be comfortable in my own skin. Because of your inspiration I've started running on the treadmill and trying some of the trendier styles. I try a lot of the things that you post, do they all work for me? Absolutely not. But I use what I can, and wait for your next post to try something new. I like learning things in your world, but living in mine.

  4. SO true. Very good post. I especially feel ya on the whole Pinterest and home feeling like junk thing. Your home is fabulous, though!

  5. I love this and it was so what I needed to hear. I cannot shake the baby weight {20 lbs thank you very much} and none of my clothes fit. I'm working my tail off and nothing is happening number wise and it has been getting me down. In reality though? I need to focus on the fact that I am healthy and in shape. I'm going to check out that book!

  6. Im applying this phrase to some of the men I date/have dated. It makes perfect sense. "i love it, but it doesn't work for me".

  7. Everything you wrote is exactly how I feel too. Pinterest is the demon, lol. I think the weight thing is just winter blues {at least thats what I tell myself}, Im always thinking I need to spice up my wardrobe but choose the same colors over and over. When I see a cute short haircut and a girl with a tattoo on her shoulder {I secretly wish to be that girl} but can't get myself there. My home is beautiful too but nothing is ever enough.. Pinterest is supposed to inspire but it just makes me have a longer list of wants and things to do. I need to find my balance and just be happy with what I have and just make enhancements as I get through this journey of life. Thanks for the post, its nice to know I'm not the only one out there feeling this way.

  8. Hello! I clicked on your link after I weighed in on the silly toilet paper covers!Anyone who values home and making it that way is wonderful in my book!
    I read your post regarding your wardrobe and pinterest woes. Well, I don't think you have anything to worry about. I do lots of design for people (friends, no pay, too complicated) and the first thing I advise? "What you like and what you can live with are two different things. We are going to make sure you like what you are living with!" I think that ties in neatly with your mantra! As for how I dress, I dress in things I love, look good in, and feel good in! I have a funny phrase I use at my work, "at the end of the day, sometimes all that matters is you liked what you wore!"

  9. This is why I have severely cut down on the time I spend on Pinterest. I only go on there if I have a specific need to search for something. There is always more more more in this world and I don't want to get caught up in it. So glad I found your blog!

  10. Glad to know I am not alone! Christmas pounds have been haunting me, despite ambitious resolutions. I have had to limit my pinterest time as well. Thank you for the pep talk! And thank you for the book recommendation, I read the description... I was so happy I could cry! As always, I can find encouragement from your posts! :D

  11. you are a beautiful person ashley, and your home is so gorgeous! :)great post!!!

  12. Ashley, that is such a great post and so true...I think that sometimes it can be easy to literally lose who we are (I've felt that way) in the midst of trends and "what I don't have's or what I don't look like". I feel that way so often with clothes that I just hate shopping and wear the same few things over and over again....your post was very inspiring and transparent...thank you. and all the pictures I've ever seen of your home...I love it.

  13. I love your decorating!

    I don't find Pinterest depressing myself. Usually when I see ultra fancy homes and items I just think that those people must have a lot of debt! And what a waste of money usually :)

  14. I love this! Thanks for the reminder. =) I just saved that book in my Amazon account- can't wait to order it!

  15. For awhile I quite watching home decor shows because it caused me to be discontented with what I had. There is not a problem with wanting to switch things up, try something new but it got to the point that all I could see was what I didn't have. God really layed it on my heart to spend my time doing something else and soon I found myself grateful for what I had. This was years ago and now I can watch without going to the dark side :o> but I have to always be careful.

  16. Hi Ashley, I know what you mean about those 80s off the shoulder tops. They look great on other people. On me, they look awful and make me look fat. When I'm shopping online, I have to remember to picture what it will look like on me, instead of the perfect model, and it's really hard. But when you find what's right for you, you can really look fabulous. The trick is, as you say, not be too seduced by what's in fashion, and go with what suits your body type.

  17. Wow. your inner beauty shines through this post.


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