What To Do When It Is All Too Much :: Part 1-Why I Am Leaving Pinterest

Do you ever feel like you want to live your life a certain way but it is your own actions that keep you in the way from living that way?  Like it is all just too much.  I have been feeling this way a lot lately...and have been feeling it for awhile.  But today it really hit me.

It is all too much.

Today I got blocked on Pinterest.  I know, how does that happen?  Well, let's start from the beginning.

I took a little while to jump on the Pinterest bandwagon but when I say awhile...I mean in blogger speed.  Pinterest hit the blogosphere big awhile ago and I didn't want any piece of it.

But then I saw that I was getting traffic from Pinterest to my blog...like in top five referrers kind of traffic.  I figured something that was getting me this kind of exposure deserved a little bit of my attention.  So I joined and it's been a love hate relationship since.

I look at Pinterest a lot like I do with Facebook.  I love connecting with my like minded friends there but there sure is a lot of extra "noise" out there that would leave me feeling not good enough, empty, and disconnected.

But because ultimately Pinterest became my new Tumblr, I had a place to store great ideas online.  If Pinterest was invading my emotional life, I could choose just to pin things myself and not spend any time in the whole repinning realm.

Until when I got blocked.

Last night and this morning I decided I wanted to pin some of our photography from Urke Photography.  And I pinned like 10+ posts in a short period of time.  And supposedly when you do that from the same main source, Pinterest flags you as suspicious and needs to check you out to make sure you are not spam.

As you can imagine, I was extremely irritated and inconvenienced as I was trying to pin something I read from online to save for later and I no longer couldn't.

And then it was like some life changing moment that this came to mind...what would life be like after Pinterest?  What if for some odd reason they did mark me as spam and I couldn't get any of my pins back?  All that time I took to save things trusting I could find it again one day...is gone.  

And then I realized...I would probably be better off.

I noticed some of my other pins that I pinned from blogs that were no way connected with spam or affiliate programs were getting marked as spam.  Like someone I have never met didn't like my pin and marked it as spam.

I have gotten blog comments from people hopping over via Pinterest saying they were dissapointed with my post as however it was pinned did not meet the expectations of what they found on my blog.

When did my blog...and me...have to be upheld to Pinterest expectations?  I tell you all...it's too much.  Too much pressure.  Too much confusion.

And then I read posts like these, about people stealing photos from blogs, editing them into pinnable pictures, and then linking it to their own site giving no credit to the original author.  Scary stuff.

So after all this weighs me down in my head, I think, man, I have better things to do than stress over Pinterest.

I remembered reading a post from Small Notebook about a free software called Evernote.  It's like Pinterest but it's private.  I can save all my ideas.  I can "pin" all I want without being worried about being spammed, comparing myself to perfectly beautiful images, and obsessively checking how often my blog is getting pinned.

Because Pinterest feeds into the egotistical me.  The me who wants more fame.  More attention.  More hits.  More adoring fans.  More ego boosts.

And it's too much.  I don't like the me who craves this.  So I am going to be walking away from Pinterest in the next few weeks.  I am going to attempt at the exhausting task of moving some of my most important pins over to Evernote instead.

There is nothing wrong with Pinterest.  I think it is a great idea, website, holder of information...but for me it has become too much.  So I need to do what's best for me and choose a different road to take. 

And while I am at it, I might wrestle with this whole Facebook and Twitter thing...we will see. 

This whole little occurrence is really challenging to reconsider my online voice and what I want it to look like.  I will share more about that in Part 2 next week. 

Is it just me or are you feeling the summer online blues?  Need a break?


  1. Ashley, I couldn't agree more.. I am trying very hard to curb my electronic life and all the media that bombards me on a daily basis. I recently got rid of my cable, but upgraded my internet service and my phone service. I long for the simple times and the simpler way of life. I think we all need to do what is best for us... I encourage you to look at The Legacey of Home... It's a great blog about simple times and returning to a less rushed way of life. Hope you are doing well.. take care and enjoy your weekend!!

  2. I have heard about other bloggers getting blocked too!! It's not just you. I think it's happening more and more often. It's frustrating b/c bloggers are using it to help promote their work...not like those weirdos who go on and blatantly add spam marketing scams. Pinterest sends me a big amount of traffic, but I try not to keep my egss in one basket. I can't believe someone would come here and leave you a comment about not measuring up!! Talk about tacky!

  3. I agree with you too. Pinterest is everybody's new addiction and it drives me nuts. Plus.... I just don't get it I guess. I've tried to pin blog posts, they don't work right, and... its just not for me I guess.

  4. I completely agree! I have told my husband that my online life too often crosses over to my everyday life, when that is the one that is important. Like Tracey, I think we all need a simpler way of life. Our family and friends are the folks that matter, not the crazy people on Pinterest! Be blessed and happy!

    *Just a side note, my sister was telling me that under Pinterest user agreements, anything you personally upload becomes the property of Pinterest. I cannot speak myself to how true that is, but since you were uploading your personal photography, I thought I would mention it to you. If it is true, that is some fine print worth passing on.

  5. Good for you Ashley! I'm not ready to walk away from Pinterest, but it's crossed my mind. It can be a huge source of inspiration but also a huge time suck. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Every since I've been blogging, I've noticed comments and readers sort of 'die off' in the Summer time. I think it's natural, and something we should all do. Just take a break from the online world.

    I think that's pretty crappy about Pinterest. I had heard that they had some new rules and stuff...I figure if I get blocked, well, then so be it.

  7. It's so weird how things change. When Pinterest started, it was basically what Evernote is now -- mostly private, with a only few people seeing your pins and repinning. And now it's something else entirely. I'm sticking with it for now (though, admittedly, barely using it), just because it's giving me traffic, but I can definitely sympathize with your decision!

  8. Sorry to hear that you got blocked. Such an odd thing to happen. While I don't have an issue with it drawing people to my site (how rude for people to leave mean comments!) I do find that I can get too easily sucked into Pinterest and all the seemingly perfect things that get pinned from perfect blogs by perfect people with perfect houses and perfect lives. It sends my feelings of inadequacy into overdrive (as does Facebook). I try only to use it as a tool to store my stuff and get some fun ideas.

    BTW, I pinned your t-shirt necklace tute and referred back to it this weekend. I had so much fun making one; your tutorial was awesome!!

  9. I completely sympathize! As we talked about at our meet-up last week, it is so hard to keep up with everything. It becomes so demanding and really takes the fun out of it. As a newbie blogger, it is hard for me to wrap my mind around everything, but like you are doing; it will be best to pick and choose what mediums I want to use. Good for you! Have a wonderful weekend!

  10. How completely crazy that Pinterest does that... I do know there is a way way you can BLOCK people from pinning things from your site, on of the blogs I follow doesn't allow pinning from her site... She got tired of people posting her store products (crafts) into boards like "I can make this"...

  11. I completely understand where you're coming from. It can get really overwhelming! I gave up facebook in the beginning of the year, because I couldn't stand it anymore, but I had to get back to help my FIL with his FB page. There's too much information and too many ways of keeping up with everyone else. TOO much information can be really bad too. Also, the copycats don't help with anything!

  12. I love pinterest, but I totally get what you're saying! I also think it's funny that this post has the "Pin it" button at the bottom! Ironic. I'll miss following you on there!

  13. I agree with you somewhat but I don't have a blog so i don't know the complete ramifications pinterest has on pinned pictures. But I also feel, there's nothing you can really do about it in the long run. I wish pinterest will make "private" pin boards and I think that they are looking into that. so maybe don't disregard pinterest until that happens. you could always turn your board into private when it happens

  14. you're a pretty wise chick, you know.

  15. Ashley,
    Wow. Thanks for sharing your story. I love your honesty (and wisdom) how many of us would be so truthful about that narcissstic part of us that craves attention? I do think social media can feed those cravings to the point that it feels out of balance. Truthfully that's why I don't do twitter or FB. It just feels like it would be too much. At least for me. I think we all have a gut feeling that we should listen to ...I'm looking forward to part 2. Leslie (aka Gwen Moss blog)

  16. YIKES! That is ridiculous. You made the right decision by not being on it anymore. YUCK. I'm not on pinterest and phew am I glad after reading how ridiculous it's been for you. Keep blogging, it keeps me entertained all the way over here in Barcelona! xo

  17. I know what you mean Ashley, I find myself wanting to step back from looking for views, readers or how often I'm "pinned". It's hard not to get into that mentality but stepping back from the venues where we feel controlled by those negative feelings is the first step! Thanks for sharing :)

  18. what happened to me was that I was spending a lot of time on Pinterest. First, looking at recipes made want more food than needed, especially being on Weight Watchers. Second, it made me be dissatisfied with the clothes I had and made me want to buy more more more, never enough. I realized it was becoming a mirror to a reality that I can't live at the moment. So I said stop, and I haven't been on pinterest for a long time. I survived.

  19. question, what are those books you have stacked in there, anything good?

  20. I mostly just use Pinterest for myself, like the bookmark feature on the computer. I figure if my computer crashes I have somewhere I can still get my bookmarks. Although I do have to say when you see your followers number climb it is a bit exciting. I think of blogging more as just a fun thing to do than trying to make it a business so I don't really put a lot of effort into promoting myself. Twitter is way too complex for me so I haven't ever really bothered with that. I think in the long run if you just don't overthink/do things it's all ok.

  21. I found I was using my desktop folder to store all my inspirations more than pinterest and I don't think that will ever change. My big thing was what if I don't have Internet connection then I guess I can't look any of them up. I completely understand where you are coming from.

    But gosh people are strange to reply that your post didn't meet their expectations. Who comments if that happens? If it does happen you just move on. Honestly.

  22. Boo to all the haters that don't like your blog! I love your blog! :) And good for you doing what you feel your heart tugging you to do. You're going to be a better person because of that!

  23. the thing with Pinterest is that either you use it as a toll (like me right now looking for Ideas on small apartment living -thank you NYC) or it would consume you. Seriously, they are nuts for saying that their expectations where not match.
    Good for you for walking away.

  24. You know, I can completely relate to this. The way you feel about Pinterest is how I began to feel about FB. It irritated me to no end and finally I just left it and haven't looked back. If Pinterest is causing you this much worry, then it's definitely not worth it to stay! If I used Pinterest more, I might feel the same as you do about it!


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