Somebody Pinch Me

The other day I had one of those moments…one of those—is this really my life?–because it almost seemed too good to be true. It all started with this: CIMG1848I recently received a KitchenAid mixer and just this week had the time to play with it {the wedding biz-niz has been keeping me busy}. As I stood there in the kitchen mixing my chocolate chip oatmeal cookies and placing them on my Pampered Chef stone…I thought to myself…when did I become a woman?CIMG1849Now the entry of womanhood is an interesting time…from the moment of puberty to getting married and having children…different for everyone…I think there is a moment when every girl realizes she has become a woman. Standing there with a $300 mixer and a “home business” stoneware that I bought for myself (as being compared to being bought by my mother or for my mother)…I suddenly realized that I had become a woman. I had never been so happy…standing there watching the fancy shmancy mixer do it’s thing…no scraping of the bowl required…taking nibbles out of the bowl and being excited that this recipe was going to be a winner. It’s not like I have never baked before or that the KitchenAid really was going to change my life in some substantial way (ok…maybe it will). But it represented something…an image…it represented a time of life where these simple tasks were soon to become my “job.” To make a house a home…to be a home manager…to be a wife with a husband to take care of…to be in a place where having children is actually a reality (but not any time soon my friends!).CIMG1850For many of you, you have only known me less than a year (in bloggy time) so I must give you a little background history. A few years ago while still attending my credentialing program in college; I had a life purpose change. For so long I felt called to the classroom and was passionate about pursuing this career. Yet right smack at the end of my program…only a semester away from finally reaching my goal, I decided I wanted to be somewhere else. I wanted to be at home.

I started blogging during this phase of purpose change…following blogs that were about homemaking. I am still all about crafting and diy…but part of me feels like I get to enter into this secret club of wifehood…I get to talk about my home and my family in a way that was not quite the same as a single girl (I was able to do this before but just not to the same extent). This is not going to turn into a homemaking blog (there are many out there that are great at that) but it will be more of a reflection of the transformation of who I am and who I am becoming which includes being at home.CIMG1862I have been waiting for a long time to have the opportunity to have a home of my own…to have a husband to love and cherish…and to feel like I get to live out this dream…this purpose…of being at home. It is so funny because this has been a recent dream that I have had just over the past few years. I never dreamed about a wedding as a little girl or played house…I was always playing teacher. I guess our childhood dreams do not always come true…but for me, that is a good thing. All that I have never wanted is more than I could have ever dreamed for. CIMG1863I am so excited about this new season of life. A friend of mine recently commented on how all my recent posts have been so joyful and that she was so excited for me and this new season of my life. My heart soared because it is true. I am joyful and so excited in the midst of a whirlwind, weeks until I am married, wedding. This fashionista finally gets to go full on domestic and I could not be more thrilled. So thank you for joining me on this journey. I hope you will stick around to see what else will be in store…

Chocolate Chip Oatmeal Cookies

2.5 sticks of butter

¾ c brown sugar

½ c sugar

1 egg

1 tsp. vanilla

1 ½ c flour

1 tsp. baking soda

1 tsp. salt

2 tsp. cinnamon

¼ tsp. nutmeg

3 c oatmeal

Chocolate chips (I added this to the recipe so add as much chocolaty-ness that you desire!)

Pre-heat oven to 375 degrees. Place parchment paper on two cookie sheets. Blend butter, brown sugar, sugar, egg and vanilla until smooth. Add dry ingredients, mix well and add the oatmeal. Then add chocolate chips. Roll into a ball the size of a golf ball. Bake 8-10 minutes.


  1. Very reflective.. I love it! Don't you love having an "AH" moment. It's great to see you evolve into more of who you are. It's been great to see how you've changed up, found peace and contentment. Welcome to the land of wifeness..I love being home and I think that's why I changed jobs and work fewer hours, so I can really be the wife my husband deserves and needs. I love reading your post on a daily basis and always have. You're a wonderful person who's life is changing, but has all the pieces of an adventure to put together.. enjoy!! (Love your mixer!!!!!)

  2. What a beautiful post! I love to see women embracing their role as the homemaker, because it really is beautiful job.

  3. I love this post, Ashley!! And I love your mixer too. I really really hissy fit want one for my birthday this year.

  4. This is wonderful Ashley! You achieve and conquer everything that you truly believe in. There's no need on "pinching" you. It is all yours! I'm so happy for you and I wish all your dreams come true. Have a blessed day! Hugs, Vanessa

  5. So sweet! I liked the photos and the way you tied everything in. Being a stay-at-home wife/mom isn't always roses and cupcakes, but it does have its wonderful moments (and then moments where your toddler crams a bunch of random stuff into the toilet) Hope you are enjoying your wedding countdown!! :)

  6. K, so, I totally know what you mean about the whole domestic-goddess-not-being-part-of-the-plan-and-then-turning-into-the-Big-Deal thing...!!! I was totally never going to get married, and I was going to have cats and my own business as a successful freelance Graphics Designer. I was also Most Likely To as far as my classmates/friends were concerned.
    Nobody was more shocked than me when I got married at 19 (!!), then (surprise, not 100% infertile after all!) pregnant four months later (at just barely 20). And then turned into this domesticated creature who crafts and bakes things and teaches her kid babysigns and how to sing the alphabet when she's barely two.
    I still think it's funny. Totally was not the plan. But I wouldn't trade out for the WORLD. I love being a homemaker! (which is my preferred terminology... stay at home mom/wife just does not come close!)

  7. what a great time in your life!! enjoy every minute of it!!

    those cookies look fabulous, and i will be trying them!! tee hee :o)

  8. You are wife (almost) and teacher to all of us. You have taught me so much. I am so proud that one of my sisters is taking the stand to see what is important and do that right thing. Well done.

  9. I am so happy for you. I have those same dreams and I have had a few of those "is this really my life" moments, but they are also so good. They usually happen when I'm cooking, decorating my house or doing something to take care of my husband. Being a wife is a joy and I am so happy that you are entering that season in your life!

  10. I felt the same way! I never thought I'd want to get married, stay home, do the "homemaker" thing. But guess what?? Staying home with my little boy and watching him everyday is the most rewarding thing I could ever do. As I sit here writing, I should be playing with him and reveling in each moment, because trust me, they don't last long! So hug you new hubby, kiss your (future) babies often, and never feel bad about choosing to stay home. It's the best place you can be, whether the world thinks so or not, know that you are where you SHOULD be!

  11. This is such a cute post. I sometimes feel so domestic now that I'm married, especially around the holidays. I miss being a kid at home too though. I've never really rushed things in life, I try to embrace every joy as it comes along. Thanks for the recipe.

  12. Good for you! So many people don't know what their dream is much less do they reach it. Just don't forget, life is a journey and you never know where your trip will take you. Enjoy every step!!!!!!

  13. What a wonderful post! I can completely relate to all of it! When I was growing up I was the same way, and now here I am at 25, married for 5 years to my highschool sweetheart and expecting our first child...and staying home and loving being a "homemaker!" It is such a wonderful feeling and gives me so much pride to know that I make a difference everyday in my (growing) family's life!

    And the red Artisan KitchenAid mixer will change your life in some substantial way...I'm sure of it! I bought mine when we got married and I am still in absolute love with it!!! :)

  14. What a sweet post. I am soooo happy for you Ashley!


  15. I too love being a homemaker...making a house a home. I feel there is no other job more important than this. What we do in our homes effect our communities and ultimately our nation. A quote from a leader in our church says it best. "Woman are the real builders of nations wherever they live, because strong homes of love and peace will bring security to any nation! President Uchtdorf.

    Somedays our tasks may seem very mundane but all in all it has a total effect on those we live with and our neighbors.

    I am so excited for your big day and I wish you and your soon to be husband all the very best!

  16. What a wonderful post!! I am so happy and excited for you as you start this awesome phase of your life. I truly do love being a homemaker!

  17. I've been thinking the same thing, since I moved to a new place this summer. It took marriage and two kids before I "became a woman." hahaha But I LOVE it! Thanks!

  18. You are glowing through my computer screen! I am sooo happy for you!

  19. I am so excited for you. God has truly blessed you and I look forward to reading more and sharing in your journey. :)

  20. Very thoughtfull post on life purpose.It should be very much helpfull

    Karim - Creating Power

  21. Oh such a lovely post!
    I KNOW how you feel, I was blessed with the same feeling whe we got married :)
    Best Wishes!!!

  22. Being a wife and mom is an honor. I truly cherish it, and I cherish my husband and our relationship. So many let the years of work and marriage and kids get in the way and I don't ever want to do that. I am more in love with him today then 15 years ago, ten years ago, five years ago. I'm so excited for you!

  23. This is such a good post, Ashley. It shows wisdom, honesty, and that you have your priorities going in the right direction. I feel blessed that you referred to me as your friend.

    Love that new Kitchenaid mixer! I know how much fun you will have creating yummy things for you and your dh to be♥

  24. I am so very happy for you! It is such an exciting time in life!


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