April 19, 2013

Creating Traditions Not Just During the Holidays


The second craft day I ever hosted, I asked the girls if they wanted me to make coffee.  Everyone said yes and some even said they were looking forward to the coffee all morning remembering that I served it the previous craft day.  There was nothing fancy about the coffee (though I do keep a hearty supply of Torani syrups on hand!) but the fact that they anticipated and expected it meant we were making a craft day tradition.

The thing is people like to know what to expect.  A surprise here and there is fun but there is safety and comfort in looking forward to something that is consistent.

I read something once that talked about the importance of creating traditions in a family.  Especially during the holidays it is difficult to balance the pressures of too many traditions (which is a whole other topic) but I think the point was to make things consistent so that they could form a memory.


When I look back on my own childhood it was the consistent things we did that I have the most memories of.  It doesn't have to be extravagant but the fact that we did it year after year or that we had a certain type of food at a certain type of event, those are the things that are remembered.  And not to much surprise, often so many of our memories are based around food.

So find a really great homemade pizza recipe or always buy a certain type of ice cream for someone's birthday.  Always have board games out at family dinner or have friends over on Groundhog's Day.

I loved that this last year so many of our friends looked forward to our holiday dessert party.  Not only will our guests remember our party but they will remember preparing for our party...coming up with a recipe to make and taking all day to bake it.  It's not just another holiday party but it's something that people look forward to, can rely on having every year, and as a result are making memories of.


For me and my husband we have made some simple and fun traditions for the everyday.  When we go see a movie together we get a California burrito from Adalberto's, stuff them in my purse, and eat it in the theater.  It's really nothing special but my husband loves it!  And I rarely want to eat at Adalberto's (it's a greasy, delicious, authentic Mexican restaurant) so for me it's a treat that I can enjoy without much guilt.  But the fact that we do this almost every time we go to see a movie (which isn't very often) we have created a memory and a tradition that we both look forward to.

I encourage you to consider the celebrations as well as the everyday moments in life.  Let's be more thoughtful of the memories we are helping our family and friends to create. 

// What small traditions do you celebrate? 

Earlier this week I shared over at Michaela Noelle Designs for her She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not series about some of the things I am loving and not so loving right now.  I talk about Disneyland and cleaning bathroom toilets but you will have to read it to find out what I am talking about! 


8 comments:

  1. I love the idea of creating memories in the everyday! We get so caught up in the daily boring routine of dishes and laundry and cleaning that we sometimes forget to have fun. We have a small everyday bedtime tradition. I sing the same song every night, we say prayers, then we give each other butterfly and eskimo kisses (same order every night or the kids call me on it). I love this and I know we will all remember it even when they are grown up and have their own kids. Who knows, maybe they will end up doing the same things with them!

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  2. I love traditions and making memories. The times we can look back and enjoy a time together is wonderful. My children remember things I don't even remember, but they look back on them fondly and I'm happy we made a tradition with them at a young age. Your right, Ashley, we need to continue to make traditions and carry on things that will continue to hold special places in our hearts. Love the bags! Just wish I lived closer to come to a craft day at your house. Coffee included!!

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  3. I also love traditions and making memories. My 17 year old son will be leaving the house someday and I'm so glad that we have been able to have traditions that hopefully he can carry on with his own children someday. Sometimes when I am together with my sister we drag him with us (even though he may just want to stay home and watch some tv) and we always joke that we are making memories and someday he will look back on these times with his crazy mom and aunt and remember those moments fondly after we are gone! =)

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  4. Besides holidays, we don't really have many traditions. At least not ones I'm very consistent with - it's kind of hit-and-miss from year to year. I'd like to get better about that!

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  5. Keeping the traditions simple is key! Our Christmas tradition is to have "breakfast for supper" on Christmas Eve. Our birthday tradition is to decorate cupcakes after school (birthday kid gets to pick the cake flavor and the color of frosting!)and then eat them as our dessert that evening for supper. Our camping tradition is to have "hobo pies" on our first night at the campground. And sure enough, they're all food traditions :)

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  6. My husband and I have a Groundhog Day party every year. We've been doing it for 13 years now! Some years it's just us, and some years we have a house full of people. I love celebrating non-traditional holidays.

    I just read your "She Loves Me She Loves Me Not" article. That's so sweet that you got engaged in Disneyland! We eloped and got married in Walt Disney World. The parks feel like "our place" and are very special to us.

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