What I Learned from 31 Days

Now that 31 Days of Serving My Husband has come and gone it felt unfinished without some closing words.  I had a mini celebration with myself in my head over completing another 31 days series but besides that (and a kind text from a friend) it just came and went.  It felt uneventful.

I would say that this year and last year's series were written to focus my heart on a topic that was dear to me.  I suppose getting to the point where I am willing to commit to the 31 days is where I get the most out of it.  The preparation and mindset to hike up my big girl pants and do something that scares me a little is probably the largest growing point.

So after writing a whole month straight on serving my husband, I would not say I miraculously became a better wife.  Sure I learned things but I think what I got most from it was more about blogging.

I learned that I have the confidence, thick enough skin, and passion for my life, how I live, and what I blog about.  I came out of this series with better boundaries with blogging.  Some days just felt like survival getting a post up every day.  But it taught be to dig deep down and write from my heart.  To surrender my words...my heart...my life...and send it out into the world whether or not it would be read, received well, and meant enough to encourage someone.

I think sometimes I have no idea what my blog is doing.  I believe I am supposed to write and share and be honest with the world because I feel it pressing on my heart.  I see pins on Pinterest and how many page views I get but I think I may never know the full capacity of what my blog is doing.  And I learned I have to be okay with that.  And instead be obedient to sharing.  Because I love to share.  I believe I have a gift of sharing.  And it became less about me but a message I am to tell that is bigger than me. 

So that being said, I will admit, I am tired.  I am happy to have the freedom to let a day pass without a post.  But I feel like I have a better grasp at who I am because I took a risk.  It was not so much about whether or not every post was well written but it was more about the process and the discipline.  For that I am thankful.  Some days blogging is really easy.  Pretty pictures and kind compliments from readers are easy...and often joyful.  But I desire more for this place that has eyes who are watching and ears that are listening.

Thank you for your support and even for your kind honesty when you may not agree with everything I say.  I want to be obedient to this space.  That I value your time and that you come here.  That if I have something to say it is of value and substance.  Otherwise I am just another person with a cute idea.  And I believe I am more than that.  Thank you for making this a place where I can be more. 



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  1. I knew you were more from the first post i read (the engagement announcement). Writing about your life its hard because not everyone has the same life, not everyone understand your points. And that's OK. For example, I ALWAYS serve my Husband dinner/food, whether we are home or a family gathering. I have been criticized to death for it but is such a small gesture that means so much to both of us. it connects us. He thanks me with a kiss and a small and says "Thank you babe". It means so much to me that if the rest of the world dont like it they can suck it. Sorry for the long message, but I so love your humble heart that is willing to love and serve your Husband and share it with the world.

  2. Hi! I found your blog through the 31 days challenge and LOVE it. You do have more than just cute ideas to share - though you have a lot of those too! - and I am thankful for your thoughts on serving your man. I've been married just about a year and a half so I'm still figuring out the best ways to serve my husband and love and respect him - your blog posts were thoughtful and helpful in reminding me of ways I had forgotten about or hadn't tried yet! Thanks!

  3. "Thank you for making this a place where I can be more." :: so beautifully put, girlie. YES. keep it up!!! love your heart. loved your series. reflecting after these 31 days is so motivating and really challenges us to blog with heart, substance, and truth. THANK YOU for doing those things!!!


  4. Thank you for all of your thoughtful insights this past month! Your posts were a daily blessing to me, and good food for thought about how to bless MY husband!

  5. Ashley, I am right there with you on the whole blogging thing! And I don't even have that many followers or post everyday! : ) There are days I feel like, why am I doing this!? ...... But every time I get those feelings and think about giving up, some one encourages me [unsolicited] about my posts and to keep it up. God knows our intent and only he knows who needs to hear [or read, in this case] what and when. You keep putting down what is on your heart and I believe God will bless it!

  6. Your series challenged me, Ashley, to be a better wife. I've been praying more about what I can do for my husband and for our marriage - as a result of your encouragement. So, thank you for that! My series tired me, too, as much as I loved it! We both want to be more. I love sharing this journey with you...online, as it is!


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