Quitting My Day Job {Sort Of}


Many of you know that over the past few years I have been a substitute teacher part time.  When I graduated college with my teaching credential I decided I did not want to teach full time.  Most of this was because of my desire to stay home. 

Substitute teaching is sort of perfect for the type of lifestyle we choose to live.  I can work when I want and if we need the extra money, but there is no long term commitment. 

Near the end of this school year I found myself chatting with a fellow sub during our lunch about subbing and life.  Somehow the conversation directed itself towards how hard it is to be a sub and that you don’t get paid for the amount of work you do. This conversation was such a revelation to me because someone else, choosing to do the same job as me, expressed the negative feelings I had towards my job.  It is as if a light bulb turned on.  I do not like to sub. 

She then asked me about my husband, being at home, our photography, etc.  And she turns to me and says, “if you have other things you can do and you don’t have to do it for the money, why are you doing it?”


And suddenly my world changed.  I had been doing something that was very obvious to me that I did not enjoy.  Why would I want to do it part time if it was something I didn’t want to do full time.  It would probably be more enjoyable full time because I could invest myself more into a group of kids.

I was doing it because it was there and I felt like I should.  Until this wonderful God ordained conversation cleared things up, which apparently now, was quite obvious.

For the first time since I have started working as a substitute teacher, I was able to truly walk away {I am pretty sure part of me wanted to walk away ever since I started!}.  I have shared so much with you all about this challenge of being a stay at home wife and balancing other avenues of making extra money.  I need to be true to who I want to be and not hold on to things for no reason. 


Another big aspect of this decision is that I have started to watch my sweet little nephew part time.  It is a small extra area of income but it is also a great opportunity to invest in my nephew and my family.  I have learned so much in my small time with him {breathe, if you had a little surprise baby you would most likely survive!} and have fallen in love with him so much.  I am thankful that I am available and have the time to be the support my family needs. 

There are so many opportunities out there that I have been neglecting by continuing to do something that was draining every inch of me.  I had to let go of feeling bad to say no to teachers I adored and to no longer have a go-to job to fill in awkward conversation about what I do all day. 

I may disappoint and I may get weird looks from people when I try to explain that I cook, clean, blog, take occasional photos, watch my nephew, and craft.  But that is okay because at the end of the day I am responsible for what makes me happy and what is best for our home.


  1. Yay for you!!! Praise the Lord for opening your eyes and for this wonderful time to connect with your nephew! PS. I thought this might be a pregnancy announcement. You know, quitting the subbing and pics of you carrying a baby... ; )

  2. Ashley, I'm going to be blunt here and tell you that you need to stop being so hard on yourself. I will be 40 next year, and 5 years ago, after having my second son, I quit working so that I could be home full time. I had pretty much held a job since I had turned 15. I spent the first year of being a homemaker, feeling guilty. I remember panicing when faced with going to a function at my husband's work...I cried about it and asked my husband what I was supposed to say if someone asked me, "what do you do?" - - like being a homemaker wasn't good enough? I think back on that now and I laugh! I have never been happier in my life. I love what I do and I see the importance of it every day. So embrace the fact that you are strong enough and smart enough that you've recognized what you do and do not want to do. xo

  3. So I have the goose bumps and almost started to cry when I read this post. I am battling the whole work vs. stay at home thing and just dont know what to do. Thanks for this post. It is getting me thinking a lot harder. I might even show this to my husband :) Thank you for sharing this.

  4. Well said my friend! You do what makes you feel happy. I love it! And I am SO happy for you!
    I'm not going to lie when I saw you holding your nephew I thought eeek! Is she preggo?? I'm a mom of four I can't help but get excited when someone gets pregnant. But I love what you have decided to do. I'm happy for you!

  5. Good for you! I subbed for about 6 months before I got a teaching job and it was quite challenging. It paid the bills and gave me experience, but it was not something I wanted to continue. (Especially since I got mostly middle school jobs ;)

    I'm so happy for you! Congrats on this wonderful decision and here's to spending more time with family. Oh, and I thought you might be pregnant, too!

  6. So very happy to read this post. I'm so glad you are making the best decision for yourself, your hubby and for the life you are creating together. Being a stay-at-home wife is one of the best privileges ever and I'm so glad that you are able to remove one aspect of your life that you really don't enjoy doing! Yeah!!

  7. Good for you for doing what really makes you happy!!!

  8. Yay! I love these pictures... you look like a natural. :) Congratulations on following your heart. I love staying home and don't know if I'll ever want to work outside the home if I don't have to. I always wanted to be a stay-at-home wife before kids but it didn't happen - but that was just part of God's amazing plan for me!

  9. Who cares what other people think?! I know we all do at least sometimes, but ultimately you have to do what works best for you and your family. Everyone else can just mind their own business. Plus, like my husband always says "A happy wife makes for a happy life." Good for you for figuring out what will make you happiest!

  10. Good for you! I too quit working before we had children because we felt like it fit our priorities better. It was a really good decision and made the transition easier when we had our first child.

    I know some people thought that was strange, but like you said, what's most important is doing what you feel is the best for your home.

    p.s. I thought this was a pregnancy announcement as well. :)

  11. Oh my gosh, subbing is horribly difficult. I'm glad you had the bravery to quit. Good for you. Enjoy your time with your little nephew. He sure looks sweet.

  12. You being happy will make your husband happy, and you will be a happy family! :)

  13. Congrats on your decision :)

    I walked away from banking about 7 years ago - realised one day that with most of my salary going on childcare, we were all stressed and frazzled, why was I doing it? I too felt I "had to" but leaving full time paid employment was the best thing ever for me and my family!

    Since all kids at school I am spending more time creating my jewelery business (something I could never have done while working outside the home), but it will always come second to family.

  14. We're living a mirrored life in so many ways.i am also substitute teaching and work from home if I'm not teaching.
    I love to be home, clean, cooking , running errands and taking care of my husband. I love to craft and it keeps me sane!
    Wow, reading this post I saw so much of myself. I just started reading your blog and can't wait to read more. Here is my email

  15. Oh! Good for you for watching your little nephew! I wish I could watch my little niece every single day, but we are very far apart. I have quit my full time job almost 10 years now, and I absolutely love being at home. Specially when I get to see my daughter growing up, it's just fantastic! Many blessings, to you. ~ Vanessa


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