31 Days of Creative Homemaking :: Day 6--Focusing on the Heart's of the Home

More often than not, we as women set the tone of our home.  This is both a gift and a curse depending on how you look at it.  It is a big responsibility, but with priorities straight and a heart focused on the family, the home can be a restful, joyful, and uplifting place for those who live in it.

Between how our society functions, my own life, and the lives of women I know, the two things I find that get in the way of our home tasks is busyness and distractions.

I am the first to admit I cannot do it all.  Trying to do it all would only end in disappointment, discouragement, and tiredness.  And many of us deal with this without even getting close to trying to do it all.

Instead of trying to do it all I try to do as much as I can during the window I am at home (which is different for everyone).  But once that clock hits 4:00, it is time for me to shut down the computer, stop working on whatever I am doing, and start thinking about dinner and picking up the house.  Making my home a place that is somewhat tidy, getting dinner ready, and not having an otherwise distracted mind, makes my husband's homecoming so much more meaningful to him and myself.

My home life is also more peaceful when I have made time to pray and consider the needs of my husband instead of just my own.  When I know he has had a stressful day at work, something as simple as an encouraging note or a Reese's peanut butter cup laid out with his after work clothes can make a big impact with little effort.

It is hard to stay focused but with little reminders, whether they be a quote around the house, a book to read, or putting together some sort of schedule that includes some mindful home tasks, you can create the home you desire for yourself and your family. 

And as I write this I wonder if some of you might read this and feel like it is so far from what home life is for you.  We all have seasons of difficulty and sometimes even darkness.  I encourage you to make a list of what you want for your home...realistic ones that begin with the hearts of you and your family.  Then find tangible ways to slowly make that happen.  It might not all come together in one day but in time it can be.

We read blogs about beautiful homes and delicious recipes, but if deep within our hearts we are not taking care of our hearts and spirit, those things really do not matter.  May we continue to encourage and uplift one another in building up our homes on the outside but also on the inside, deep within our souls.

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  1. Again, you are hitting the nail in the head. I used to be so upset because I couldn't compare my home to those on blogs, and then I realize the house is just a shell. If I don't take care of my family, my husband, and even my self, it wont matter that I have pretty curtains, or a cool painted wall. It has taken me a lot of soul searching and praying (and reading things like this) to get it.

  2. What a beautiful post filled with so much truth. This is one of my favorite things I've read here Ashley, and that's saying a lot because I enjoy all the different aspects of life you share here.
    Leslie (aka Gwen Moss blog)

  3. Your last paragraph really spoke to me. I'm spending too much time on things that really aren't important. I'm definitely going to refocus and set the right priorities.
    Thanks friend

  4. Yep, that last paragraph is really good. "We read blogs about beautiful homes and delicious recipes, but if deep within our hearts we are not taking care of our hearts and spirit, those things really do not matter. " Thanks for the gentle reminder!

  5. I have really struggled with prioritizing my life in the past. One of the things I did to refocus is to make a point to ask my husband everyday, "what is one thing I can do to make your day easier?" Not only is it showing my husband that I am willing to help, but it also shows my children how important their dad is to me. I know that your future children will see the same in your house.


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