When I am taking care of myself--meaning my issues and struggles, I am a more balanced person and more readily open to serve my husband and others.
When I am taking care of myself my marriage is better. Sure my husband has areas he can work on as well, but honestly, from experience, when I am well, we are well.
When I say issues I mean deep things like jealousy, comparisons, and things I have been in bondage to my whole life. By being willing to learn, read, and have accountability in my life, I can find freedom from those things.
When I see women stuck in an unhappy marriage, I see deeper personal issues in her own life. This is not always the case but still often true.
We cannot change our husband's but we can change ourselves. And when we change ourselves we all benefit. You benefit. Your marriage benefits.
And then there are those special beautiful moments where because you are changing, your husband freely changes on his own. Because he is encouraged or inspired by you. That my friends is a win win!
So if you are struggling, find a listening friend or an appropriate book. But if your marriage is struggling, I challenge you to look at yourself first. When I am taking care of myself, more often than not, my marriage always improves.
A few books that have helped me work through deep routed issues:
-Breaking Free by Beth Moore
-Lord, I Want to Be Whole: The Power of Prayer and Scripture in Emotional Healing by Stormie Omartian
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